FREE ESSAY ON EMOTIONS

EMOTIONS

Emotions
No matter how hard you try, you cannot control your emotions, only attempt to hide them.
Emotions influence every aspect of our lives, what we do, what we say, and et cetera. All
of our emotions, from anger to insecurity, are influenced by several factors, just as our
lives are influenced by our emotions (Gelinas, Emotions 35).
First of all, it causes problems when one does not trust himself, and it shows up in many
ways. Some people brag to call attention to themselves, causing others to believe that
the egoistic person has a lot of self-respect. Very often though, egotism can be an
attempt to cover up insecurity in a person who does not feel they will be good enough
without it (Gelinas, Emotions 36). Bragging about one's achievements, material
possessions, or achievements reveals a sense of inferiority. Even though one may brag
their whole lives, they never reach a sense of well being. This is caused by fixation,
which is when a person does not grow emotionally after a certain point (Gelinas, Emotions
64). A person that brags a great deal may also be considered a snob. A snob may not act
as a braggart for the same reasons egoistic people do, for what snobs do is act so that
they end up isolating themselves. They do this to avoid the trouble of friends,
responsibilities, and emotional relationships by giving a snobbish attitude to the people
who put up with these things (Gelinas, Emotions 45). Another sign of insecurity is envy.
One often envies another to hide a lack of trust in themselves. They envy others
accomplishments because they don't think they themselves can achieve those
accomplishments (Milios 39).
Many factors influence anger. Most anger is caused by a situation that makes one feel
uncomfortable (Licata 14). This uncomfortable feeling could also be described as feeling
threatened. Feeling threatened could lead to angry feelings because a threat can cause
harm. Things that could make one feel threatened include disapproval, betrayal,
deprivation, exploitation, manipulation, frustration, violence, and humiliation (Gaylin
95). One has their own ways of handling anger, most of which are unhealthy. Denial is one
way of handling anger by using self-deception. In denial, one does not allow themselves
to register a feeling that is threatening in one way or another (Gaylin 96). Bigotry is
another way of handling anger. "A person that is prone to anger must create an object to
be angry at. Therefore, the object of the anger is not the cause of the bigot's pain, but
the solution" (Gaylin 114).
Anger can sometimes turn into hate. Some different terms for hate could be annoyance,
irritation, hostility, or maliciousness. Some of the "symptoms" of hate include wanting
to hurt, humiliate, damage, destroy, threaten, and wanting to seek revenge on someone.
Some people try to justify their actions by having the motive of wanting to destroy to
rebuild on a stronger foundation (Gelinas, Anger 12). There are five distinguishable
kinds of hate: incipient, inward, explosive, deflected, and constructed. Incipient hate
is a dislike that causes one to take action against the frustration that caused it.
Inward hate is also caused by frustration, but is kept inside because of the fear of
punishment from the world if they are to express their anger. Explosive hate usually
bursts forth with out warning. This kind of hate could be a product of holding in too
much inward hate. Deflected hate is when one imagines one object as another so they can
express their hate without hurting the original object. Constructive hate is a positive
hate. This is when one feels so strongly about something, it causes them to direct their
hate at fighting the injustices (Gelinas, Anger 14).
There are three ways to deal with difficult situations. One can face their problems, one
can change them for the better, or one can try to escape from them. Daydreaming can be an
escape from reality because the person creates a different world; therefore, frequent
daydreaming encourages turning away from reality (Gelinas, Emotions 42). Religion can
also be used as an escape from problems. Even if they don't mean to, a person can blame
God for the problems in their life, rather than doing something for them (Gelinas,
Emotions 47). Running away is often used as an escape from one's responsibilities, but
more often an escape from one's troubles. Marriage, when used as an escape from bad
circumstances, generally leads to even more unhappiness. Anyone who can provide for the
desperate person would be accepted. However, the desperate person usually ends up hating
the provider because they feel they are trapped (Gelinas, Emotions 46). Some people try
to deceive reality by not taking anything seriously. They feel they are too good to feel
sad, so they constantly act happy to avoid have emotional responsibilities such as
relationships (Gelinas 45). 
In conclusion, many things can influence our emotions. Emotional problems can be revealed
in the way one acts, even though acting a certain way is often used to camouflage a
problem.